I was tired…I was tired of being tired. I felt incomplete. I felt I had no purpose. I felt a lack of passion. I asked myself, there must be something else I am put on this earth to do. Sound familiar?
Putting your self first! Think it’s selfish! Think again.
Why is it so hard for many of us to do things for ourselves before we do for others? Maybe we believe the ”good” woman sacrifices herself for her family and increasingly, for her work. Guess what, if you always put someone else first, there’s a tendency for others to depreciate you, to lose respect, because respect for another comes from an understanding that that person has her own wishes, dreams, and desires.
In fact, being skilled at taking care of yourself may improve your capacity to care for others; if you’re not fulfilled, you’re only able to see other people through the filter of your own needs. And studies suggest that not taking care of ourselves is unhealthy for those who depend on us. So I got focused on I wanted to do. I had to transform my mindset and get down to business.
When I transitioned from the military 16 years ago, I was in a different head space. Times were different then. Leaving military service with 2 degrees in nursing and a plethora of experience left me with a very naïve way of thinking.
You see, gaining employment was easy. Changing the way I was thinking was a different story. But, here’s the thing: I didn’t know that at the time. 11 (eleven) jobs later I realized that this was not the way my life had to be. At that point I chose to be an entrepreneur.
Before that, I had to learn how to “Get a Life”.
Getting a life (a few steps toward balance)
- Give yourself some quiet time and ask what you’re afraid of. The more honest you are, the easier it will be to address the real problems.
- Think of creating a personal life as an investment in your work. If you’re refreshed and balanced, you’ll be more productive.
- Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you’re going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus. That means asking yourself, “is what I’m doing part of my overall plan-and can I release the energy I’ll need.”